We are not who our trauma says
One of the greatest gifts for those of us with complex trauma is disbelief in its voice.
Traumabrain & Us
Traumabrain & Us
Forgiveness?
Forgiveness?
How can forgiveness be anything other than an insult to us traumatised?
We deserve better
Negotiating Trauma
Negotiating Trauma
Trauma is a hard, unrelenting path
But we can choose one that uses it without being used by it.
We are only ever one thought away from peace. Just the one single thought. That thought can never be defeated by hostility or resentment. It can, however, be relinquished in the light of the understanding we can bring to it.
Welcome to traumalife
To begin at the beginning…
Examining the Unexamined
Examining the Unexamined
An Invitation...
Personal experience isn’t always the best guide when it comes to helping others manage trauma.
Offering different perspectives is far more valuable as then we can find our own answers, in our own way.
This is an invitation to look at our trauma (and our thinking) from new, surprising and fresh perspectives.
Gaining new perspectives often means letting go of unexamined beliefs we have about our trauma and our thinking in general. Examining what we have always assumed to be self-evident truths is a pre-requisite for any deep, abiding change.
Because when we look at what we presently believe, with no preconceptions, we can often find absurdity where once only blind certainty existed.
We are not children. This is not a site to tell you what to think, or what to believe.
Rather, it is a place where the first step is simply examining the everyday beliefs we carry.
The answers you gain are yours. They may be shared with others – but they are answers built not of shared opinion, but of your own personal insight.
So I cordially invite you to begin at the beginning; to examine and see if our shared assumptions are actually true. The button below takes you to a post where our beliefs and assumptions are tested by the simple act of observation.
Join me, and others who have stood from a new place to look at old problems.
Alternately…
Just potter around poking at things. It’s an ancient and noble tradition you’ll be following in. You’ll discover that the site includes input from our cousins across the neurodivergent spectrum sharing their wisdom of living in a world that rewards conformity. There is also input from wonderful people who have, either through vocational or personal interest, something relevant and engaging to offer to us traumatised folk.
Lastly there is the blog. Yes, it contains the scattering of views and experiences that “a brain like a circus” (thank you Kath) can conjure. But at its heart is a carefully structured collection of posts in two categories; ‘Perspectives’ and ‘Practice’.
So, pootle, potter, poke and peep to your heart’s content. But please be aware, I don’t offer a cure. What is on offer is a way of living with trauma that calls forth the highest and best in us, and that helps us to live from that point rather than from the internal hell of a mind at war with itself. The trauma will still throw grenades. But we can disarm those grenades on the fly. We can spend less time being dragged into those downward spirals. It’s work, that much is assured, but I cannot think of a more meaningful path considering where we have been, and where we can, with practice and insight, go.
Alternately…
Just potter around poking at things. It’s an ancient and noble tradition you’ll be following in. There is also input from wonderful people who have, either through vocational or personal interest, something relevant and engaging to offer to us traumatised folk.
Lastly there is the blog. Yes, it contains the scattering of all the views and experiences that “a brain like a circus” (thank you Kath) can conjure. But at its heart is a carefully structured collection of posts in two categories; ‘Perspectives’ and ‘Practice’.
So, pootle, potter, poke and peep to your heart’s content. But please be aware, I don’t offer a cure. What is on offer is a way of living with trauma that calls forth the highest and best in us, and that helps us to live from that point rather than from the internal hell of a mind at war with itself. The trauma will still throw grenades. But we can disarm those grenades on the fly. We can spend less time being dragged into those downward spirals. It’s work, that much is assured, but I cannot think of a more meaningful path considering where we have been, and where we can, with practice and insight, go.
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